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Play Episode 27 Here Classically there’s transference and counter-transference and all the “stuff” that goes along with that. While avoiding those words I review some thoughts on how to name and keep the differentiation between ourselves and our clients when […]

Play Episode 26 Here Our most treasured question in SE is probably the classic: “What do you notice now?” This Open question preserves autonomy and empowerment for our clients as they can answer anything they like, including the dreaded “I don’t

Play Episode 25 Here Outside the confines of the penetrating gaze is another reliable and uniquely intelligent way of seeing, one where subtle shifts of shadow and form stand out from the noise. The use of peripheral vision in SE sessions

Play Episode 24 Here There’s so much interesting stuff to learn swirling around SE and the new traumatology. Sometimes we want to grab it all at once. Sometimes we need to pace out our studies. Here’s a little cheerleading for my

Play Episode 23 Here There are times that we need to speak quickly, right off the top of our heads. This is especially true in sessions when people are running headlong into harm with their narrative and we’re trying to

Play Episode 22 Here Once we’ve established enough stability, either in the broader or simpler sense of things, we might choose to do some “resiliency testing” where we’ll push things to their edge a bit.  This is valuable for information

Play Episode 21 Here The way we meet and great our clients is obviously important. Maybe less considered is the pace and tone we use to close the door when saying goodbye.

Sometimes getting where we want to go requires backtracking a bit or even relaxing in the distance we’ve already come before pressing on to new ground. Considering the “local maximum” can be helpful in determining which is which.

Play Episode 19 Here We often say similar things to different people, creating a kind of “pattern” that gets our message across effectively. This is also helpful in giving us ways to direct people’s attention and allow us more free

Play Episode 18 Here A sponsored episode on ways to get passed the guard that clients often have around noticing positive experience when their focus is directed toward the negative. Thanks Michelle.